Here’s what to look for to find out if he is serious about you. [Updated July 2019]
I know how frustrating it is to “think” you’re dating a man, but actually, it’s not dating at all. The reality is that it’s a one-sided relationship…your side only.
If a man is not asking you out on Friday and Saturday nights (traditionally thought of as “date nights”), then he’s probably saving those nights to meet other women. If he only wants to “hook up with you” on weeknights when most people aren’t out at the bars and socializing as much, he’s only interested in sex and no more.
I know this sounds harsh, but it’s the truth. If a man is truly interested in you, he won’t let anything or anyone come in the way of developing a serious relationship with you. He’ll want you all to himself and then he’ll want to introduce you to his friends and family.
If you do start dating, don’t over-function. In other words, let him work to make the relationship happen. Sit back and enjoy being “courted.” I know a lot of women have great ideas of fun things to do together, but don’t make suggestions. Allow him to “man-up” by making the plans and suggestions.
Also, don’t drive to his house. Let him pick you up even if he’s taking you back to his house to prepare dinner for you. This seems almost ridiculous and inconvenient, however, you’re the prized jewel and he should be treating you that way. It’s his role to pursue you, not for you to pursue him.
It’s okay to be the first to say “hello” to a man, but it’s not okay to call, text and email him without him doing so first.
In fact, it’s repulsive to a man when a woman tries too hard. He wants to run away.
If you find that you’re making excuses about how he treats you or how he doesn’t do special things for you because he’s too busy, he travels too much, etc., then stop and take a look at why you feel like you have to make excuses.
Are they legitimate or are you overlooking his bad behavior? Bad behavior can mean ignoring you, taking you for granted, expecting too much from you too soon and anything that doesn’t make you feel special, because you need to always remember that you are “The Prize!”
Be on the “look out” for bad behavior so you don’t stay with a man who doesn’t treat you right. This could keep you from getting your heart broken.
Look at his actions and think to yourself “If I were a man, would I treat a woman that way if I was really interested in her or even falling in love with her?”