Are You Ready for A Transformation?
I know you have high hopes and dreams of a great future marriage or relationship with him if you’re in love with him and he’s told you he’s in love with you.
It’s confusing when he tells you one thing, then acts differently. Maybe he’s calling or texting and says that he misses you or wants to see you.
The only way to stop this roller coaster of a ride is either get off by breaking up or be totally honest with him to smooth this bumpy ride out and make it work.
But BEWARE, if you’re honest in a blaming, shaming and justifying way, you’ll blow it!
This is precisely when to tell him how you feel in a controlled and loving way. Instead of pushing him away because you feel angry, hurt and disappointed, talk about how you can bring him closer by lovingly expressing your feelings. Do this without blaming him, only having love in your heart, even though you’re hurting inside.
It Is possible to do this!
Here’s an example:
Let’s say he broke up with you 2 weeks ago, and now he’s texting and wanting to see you, I invite you to consider agreeing to meet him in person at a public place (so you aren’t tempted to let the physical attraction get in the way). Then, here’s an example of how you can discuss it with him in person:
Hi Matt, thank you for texting. I’ve missed you too. I’ve been feeling sad about the break up, in fact, my chest has been tight and I don’t like feeling this way. I love to feel happy (touch his forearm when you’re saying this).
For me, in my life (touch your heart while you’re saying this), I want to have a great relationship that leads to marriage. I want to have a family (if you’re older, you can say that a family can be just a husband and wife). I know that’s not for everyone, but that’s what I want for myself.
I have so much fun with you and there’s been a lot of love between us, and I’ve missed that over the past few weeks.
For me, It’ll feel good when I can be with a guy who knows what he wants and can give me what I want to be happy.
After he hears all of this, he will see you in a different light. He’ll see you as a confident woman who knows what she wants and he’ll have to either step up to the plate and give you what you want or bow out.
Expressing Yourself The Right Way
Notice that by expressing yourself this way, you’ve not blamed or shamed him for breaking up with you. You’re expressing yourself in a very respectful way.
You’ve simply expressed your feelings and stated what you personally want in your life to be happy. And, if he really does care for you, or even love you, he’s going to want to make you happy.
At this point, I invite you to ask this question in a “curious” way, “Matt, what do you want in your future life?”
This gives him a chance to really think about what he wants in his future; and most of all, does that include you?
This may sound way too simple, but these words are specifically scripted so he feels safe with you and you get your point across to him in a loving way.
Whatever answer he gives you, I invite you to thank him for being honest with you.
This is a way to decide from your perspective if he’s a good match for a future marriage or relationship with you.
Once you’ve spent enough time with him, excuse yourself and leave the date. This will give him the impression that he could potentially be losing the best thing he’s ever had in his life!
And, this is the hardest part of the whole thing…Don’t be attached to the outcome of a relationship with him. Please understand that if the relationship doesn’t move forward, it wasn’t meant to be and there’s someone whose a better match for you.
If you can really believe this, you’ll be able to walk away and prepare your heart for another man.
I know this is brief, and I want you to really “get this,” so I invite you to try my “Miracle Moments©” Video Series where you’ll learn powerful new tools and habits so you can get amazing results in your dating and relationship life. I’ll walk you through every aspect of dating, communicating, resolving conflicts and much much more.
If you use this information just once, but haven’t studied all of the tools, you’ll be right back where you were before and you’ll go into your automatic habits that broke up the relationship in the first place.
And, I’m not saying that is was all your fault. What I’m saying is that with the new tools, he’ll react differently and he’ll put blame and shame aside too.
It’s magical the way men react when you “get it!” They’ll change the way they communicate with you too, and the two of you can build a strong bond that nothing can break.
This is not a quick fix! It takes time to watch the videos and integrate them into you dating life.
This series is not for single women who aren’t willing to change old habits and beliefs that aren’t serving them anymore, like “all guys are jerks, or I’m not enough.” These beliefs don’t belong in a healthy dating relationship, and you’ll learn how to move past these so you can attract a great guy who’ll treat you like “The Prize” that you are!
I’ll see you in the “Miracle Moments©” Video Series!